Like many people, I used to wrestle with one of life’s hardest questions: Why do terrible things happen to good people? It’s deeply unsettling to witness tragedy strike kind, loving individuals—especially when the suffering feels random or unjust. When we see massive disasters claim innocent lives, or a child face a life-threatening illness, it’s natural to wonder: If there’s a higher power, how could this be allowed?
Over time, my perspective has shifted. I’ve come to understand that what we perceive as “bad” events may carry a different meaning from the soul’s point of view. The Universe doesn’t necessarily judge experiences as good or bad—those are human constructs. To the Universe, events are neutral. It's our perception, shaped by emotion and culture, that labels them.
I personally believe we choose to incarnate on Earth to explore emotional and energetic frequencies that aren’t available in the afterlife. Earth offers the full spectrum of experience—including grief, anger, loss, and vulnerability. As souls, we may agree to certain life lessons before we’re born. These lessons often require hardship so we can fully grasp what it means to feel, to suffer, and ultimately, to heal.
Let your story be one of courage, perspective, and transformation. There’s a kind of quiet perfection in all of it—if you’re willing to look deeper.
It might be difficult to accept, but from this perspective, a soul might choose a deeply painful path—such as the loss of a loved one, betrayal, illness, or even violence—in order to grow in understanding. Grief teaches us depth. Anger reveals our power. Forgiveness opens the heart. These aren’t punishments. They’re catalysts for transformation.
Even more challenging is the idea that someone who harms us—someone we might label as a villain in our story—could actually be a soul we love deeply. Before this lifetime, we may have asked them to play a difficult role so we could learn what we came here to learn. Some souls resist these roles, knowing the pain they will cause, but agree out of love and commitment to our shared growth.
If you’re carrying anger or sorrow about something that happened in your life, ask yourself this: What did it teach me? Did I become stronger? Wiser? More compassionate? Pain has a way of shaping us in ways that ease never could.
When you begin to see life through this soul-centered lens, something incredible happens. You stop seeing yourself as a victim of fate and begin to understand the deeper meaning behind your journey. Every major experience—whether joyful or painful—may have been chosen with intention before you even arrived on Earth.
The soul isn’t interested in comfort. It’s interested in evolution.
I hope this view brings some light to your own path. If you can begin to see the value and growth hidden within life’s most difficult moments, you might also begin to feel gratitude for what those moments have made possible. Life doesn’t happen to us. It happens for us—and ultimately, through us.
Let your story be one of courage, perspective, and transformation. There’s a kind of quiet perfection in all of it—if you’re willing to look deeper.
